2009, The Real After Party

A lot of us have gotten our party on to celebrate the new year.  Certainly 2008 has been a year to remember for many reasons good and bad.  I find the rough seas of the economy and life in general to be a challenge to me taking a more active role in living my best life possible.   One of the sorriest lives one can live, is one of mediocrity, passiveness, apathy, or defeat.  I think of my life and must admit there have been times I have subjected myself to all of these.  I think of the time I have wasted or the opportunities lost.  I think of the years I have settled or didn’t believe in my own abilities. 

There are so many areas of directions to subscribe to in life.   So many things that could be focused on.  I don’t believe in New Years Resolutions, but I do believe that the new year is an opportunity for reflection, and an opportunity for new goal setting for life’s course.  For me, the most important things at this point are,

1. Taking control of my thoughts – I can’t control what other people do or say.  I can’t determine whether people will treat me with goodness or evil.  Who knows where my next dollar is coming from.  My mind and spirit have to be “mission control” as I only have true authority over self attitude and focus.  I need to think with a sense of optimism and hope in my life, and in the lives of the people I touch.  I have to believe in my future even as I embrace the present. 

2. Understand the adventure that life is – I think the most exciting life is one lived with a sense of fierceness not knowing what the next day will bring.  Packing light if you will.  My need for personal and emotional safety has cheated me out of that most of my days.  I hope to step out and dare myself to embrace more of the unknown.

3. TCB Academically – There are a few projects that I have been working on that need completion.  That will give documentation for my deeds.  Revolution is started with a spoken word, but it’s carried on the printed page.  My pages should be read long after I am gone.

4. Not just about what I do, but who I am– It is important to accomplish my goals and leave my mark on this world.  To help make it a better place than when I entered it.  But I truly want to be remembered for the love I gave, the wisdom and knowledge I shared, the joy I spread, and the hope I inspired.  If in my works I do not make someone’s life better, I have failed.

5. Love freely and unconditionally, understanding that I am responsible for my own happiness.  – People are wonderful creations.  And we all have our flaws.  We need to give and receive love.  But we need to learn to love ourselves independently.  It has to be so strong that it sustains us when we can’t sense the love from another.  Giving and receiving love is reciprocal to say the least.  They feed one another and it’s a beautiful thing.  But if we in wanting to receive that love and acceptance give people too much power over our personal sense of value and worth, we are destined to live and die with a broken heart.

I have not attained all of these.  They are key areas that I see within myself that I vow to focus on. 

I hope each of you have your own set of goals… and God grant you the grace to see them through.


The Man Bible 7 : Do It For Love

The way a man penetrates the world should be the same way he penetrates his woman: not merely for personal gain or pleasure, but to magnify love, openess, and depth. 

– The next time you embrace your woman sexually, feel your ultimate desire.  Your deepest desire in life.  Feel why you are doing anything at all in life, and specifically, why you are uniting with your lover.  There may be many lesser reasons, but what is your deepest, ultimate reason?

– Most men’s ultimate reason for doing anything has to do with discovering their deepest truth, enjoying total freedom and love, and giving their fullest gift.  Yet, many settle for for enjoying a little bit of freedom and love while incompletely giving their gifts. 

– When a man give his true gift of sex to his woman, he penetrates and blooms her beyond all limits into love.  It is the same with the world.  To bloom woman and world for real takes authenticity, persistence, and courage of heart.   A man must know the truth at his core and be willing to give his gifts fully.  No holding back.  He must be willing to dedicate his sex and his life to magnifying love by penetrating woman and world with his true gifts.  The willingness is rare.

– Most men are limpened with doubts and uncertainties.  Or they hold back their true drive because of fear.  So they diddle their woman and the world just enough to extract the pleasure and comfort they need to assuage their nagging sense of falsity and incompleteness.  But if you are willing to discover and embrace your truth, lean through your fears, and give everything you’ve got, you can penetrate the world and your woman from the core of your being and bloom them into love without limit.  You can ravish your woman so deeply that her surrender breaks your heart into light.  You can press yourself into the world with such enduring love that the world opens and receives your deepest gifts.

– There is no essential difference between entering your woman’s feminine heart and entering fully into the world.  Both forms of intercourse, sexual and worldly, require sensitivity, spontaneity and a strong connection to deep truth in order to penetrate chaos and closure in a way that love prevails.

– Neither woman nor world are predictable.  They will often seem to resist your gifts and test your capacity to persist.  And just as surely, they will tenderly respond to the authenticity of your relaxed ministrations, the freedom expressed in your humor, and the invasion of your a adamant love.  They will open in love and receive you fully – only to resist and test you again, moments or days later.  Neither woman nor world can be second-guessed, or fooled.  They know when you are just dicking around.  They want to receive you for real. – David Deida

Uhhh, no commentary necessary on this one.  I think he said it all.