Old Spice Cat

I'm On A Horse: How They Made The Old Spice Ad

This cat truly cracks me up!  I wasn’t sure if I was with it when I first saw it the more I see it the more I get it!  Quite the over the top idea for a commercial.   Now who in the hell still buys and puts Old Spice on their bodies is a mystery to me.  I’m just saying.



Every man has a path to take.  And within that path is the journey that he has set before him.  I believe that we all have a certain destiny/destination within us though sometimes its hard to figure out.  Of course all men have both their similarities and differences as well.  We are motived by different things.  For some of us its money.  For others its pride, and for others even love for the purpose itself. 

Along that path a man gets help from variou sources.  You see there is no such thing as a self-made man.  It just doesn’t work that way.  I was laid off of a position I held for 11 years and during a class where they taught us how to get a leg back up in the job market I learned that 85% of all jobs filled in America are because of word of mouth.  That means that no matter how ‘qualified’ one is, the likelihood that he will get that position solely based on his resume’, experience and interview skills, unless he knew someone who could influence the person making the decision hire, out of say 100 applicants, he only had a 15% chance of getting the job.  This is just one example. 

Even in starting a business people have to favor you in lending advice and or capital.  Perhaps you catch just the right deal on that building or leasing plan.  Something has to happen when the universe gets behind you to push a successful vibe your way.

There is another element that I would like to talk about when it comes to the success of a man; his inner circle – specifically the woman in his life.

In today’s society there is often more of a competitive spirit among couples than there is unity.  Instead of having a cohesive unit where vision is shared and built upon together, there is a push/pull of egos for power and influence.  I believe there are many reasons for this.  Most of them have to do with our own insecurities or trying to make a person do something that he/she may not be ready for.  For example, a man can’t convince a woman to stand by him and support his vision if she has no desire to support him.  And a woman can’t convince a man to have a vision if he is not motivated to have one.

I heard a story years ago where a reporter asked a former first lady what would have happened if she had married another man she had been with previously.  Her answer was that the previous guy would have been president instead of the then current president.  Why is that?  Because she was a kingmaker.  In other words, whoever she married was going be president, or great.   Because it was something about her love and motivation, her ability to touch her man in the secret places where his greatness lie dormant or in seed form and bring his greatness out.

Some women are just the opposite.  Instead of king making they’d rather destroy the potential in their man because of fear or insecurity.  They spend their time putting him down or crushing his spirit because they are afraid that if he were to reach his potential and be great he may leave her behind.

A kingmaker is not insecure in her man’s potential of success.  In fact, she demands it.  She will not settle for less than for the greatness she sees in his spirit; or the thing she recognizes as his gift to the world.  She will not be fearful of the consequences, possible popularity or notoriety that are the fruits of success.  For she feels it’s more important for him to be empowered to make the mark and the difference he should for his time and dispensation on the earth.  (Even if it adversely affects her)

A kingmakers reward is the king.  She sees purpose and destiny first.  She sees the calling of God and the importance of making an impact on society that is needed.   The people who need to be touched and lives that need to be changed. 

And if the king is smart, once he reaches the level of his greatness he will not forget from where he came. Not only will he be humble in the midst of the blessings surrounding his gifts in expression he will treasure those who helped him to get there…. especially his kingmaker.  He will fully understand and appreciate his kingmaker cause she believed in him and encouraged him when no one else did.  When everyone else questioned his worth, value and intentions.  She was the one who believed and remained faithful to the vision he didn’t even know he had yet.  She will be the one still there once the mission is completed or if the opportunity to present those gifts are taken away.

Some men like myself have lots of potential.  I have gifts to give to people and blessings to share.  I do that now mostly everyday.  But there is something greater ahead.  A greater level of influence.  And I admit that I am learning to accept and love myself more and more all the time as it relates to these gifts.  Getting therapy has helped a lot and I am seeing more and more my potential.  Equally true is that I would like to thank my kingmaker.  The one who demands that I get the help and assistance I need to be the best I can be.  The one who believes in me even when I am not sure of myself.  The one who always encourages me in the midst of my greatest challenges.

To her I would say, “Thank you for believing.  Thank you for encouraging.  Thank you for listening without judgment.  Thank you for pushing in all the right directions.  Thank you for demanding that I be great!”

Lyrics In My Ear – Annie Mae

For a while I’ve wanted to add an addition to the blog that involves music and in particular lyrics.  Music is such a big part of my life and sometimes I may listen to a song and for whatever reason the lyrics just stand out a little more.   Sometimes it’s personal, and at other times I just hear them in a new way.  Well I appreciate art and one thing about the art of music, is that there is a song for every feeling, thought and emotion.  So here is what was ‘in my ear’ the other day.  Natalie Cole’s Annie Mae from 1977’s album “Thankful.”


Growing up wasn’t easy for Annie Mae
A little girl in a great big world
Annie Mae
No one knew about her past
Some people swore she’d never last
She was (growing up much too fast)
Just a little too fast
Never had her a Mama, no, no
Annie Mae
Rarely heard a kind spoken word
Annie Mae

Looking at life through an empty shell
And all the time she’s catching hell
She was growing up much too fast
Does anybody know where is Annie Mae today
Where oh where is Annie Mae
All you got to do is look into the faces of
All the young girls
On the avenue

In the night hear her cry, Annie Mae
Hurt and pain keeps coming again
And again, and again, Annie Mae
Trippin’ and runnin’ is blowin’ her mind
Tryin’ to decide if she’ll make it this time
She was (growing up) oh, yeah (much too fast)
She was (growing up much too fast)
Somebody got to stop her, oh Annie, Annie
(where is Annie Mae)
Annie, Annie
Somebody got to stop her, oh, Annie, Annie,
Annie, Annie
She’s runnin’, she’s runnin’
Growin’ up too fast, oh, oh
(She’s running’) oh, oh
Growin’ up too fast, oh, oh
(She’s runnin’) oh, oh
Growin’ up too fast, oh, hey Annie,

Annie Mae, yeah
(She’s running) Where you goin’ Annie
(She’s runnin’) Don’t you think somebody ought to stop you
(She’s runnin’) Somebody aught to stop you
(She’s runnin’) Don’t you think I’m gonna try to stop you

BB&G Celebrates Me at 43! Happy Birthday!

Happy to share a birthday with the likes of Sidney Poitier, Nancy Wilson and Gloria Vanderbilt…..

Mad Respect for Tiger Woods


I know that there are a lot of people who want Tiger to face the public in the way they would choose.  They want him to face a gauntlet of reporters and be given the business about the details of his affairs. 

I disagree that he has to do it.  It’s his choice and the way he has handled this from the beginning really says something about the way more celebrities and public figures should handle personal issues.

Tiger on the golf course is public news.  We may even be interested in his personal life.  But its his choice to let us in on what he does and does not allow us access to.

Tiger handled his business on his own terms in private in spite of the heavy media and public pressure.  And when he finally came out with his statement, he came correct.

The public cannot ask for more than that.  He owned it and laid it all out there.  Everything that was necessary for a public figure.

Way to go Tiger.  I think he already has learned some valuable lessons and the way he has handled even this public circus says alot about what he has going for him in the future.

Best of success to you Tiger!

Did Peyton Trip?

Uhhhh…. YEA!

I’ll say the same thing I said about Lebron James.  If you’re man enough to shake hands when you win, then you need to be man enough to congratulate the winners when you lose. 

I know as  a competetor he doesn’t want to shake the hands of the winners especially after that interception.  But still.  You got to do what you got to do.  Its part of being a professional.