I’m Just Saying…. Seriously~

…  or musings from being intoxicated during Monday Night Football

* Well with the Dow dropping in record numbers and the Bail Out plan in pieces on the floors of congress, I figure it’s going to take an “Incredible” to fix the economy.  Seriously!

* So I was in the hood the other day.  Picked up a bootleg copy of that new Samuel L. Jackson movie, “Lakeview Terrace.”  Sometimes you really have to watch those bootlegs.  I mean a guy can get ripped off.  I knew something was wrong when I saw Snoop Dogg playing Sam’s role.  Yea the c.o.p was being played by the D. O. Double G.  And then these bootleggers get all imaginative with their movies adding stuff that’s not supposed to be there.  They like to mix movies like a DJ mixes hip hop records.  So my bootleg copy of Lakeview was combined with Tyler Perry’s, Diary of a Mad Black Woman.  Yea.  After Snoop swiped a credit card down Mudear’s ass, I just turned the movie off.  I’m just saying! 

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* Did you get a load of John McCain smirking everytime Barack Obama got off on his ass in the debates the other night?  He had this look as if to say, “Look Sambo, you talk well and all but I am the white man… what do you think is going to happen on November 4th?” I don’t want to start any rumors, but right after the debates I was looking at an episode of Beavis and Butthead.  And Butthead asked the question,… “Senator McCain, are you my daddy?  Seriously!

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* So anyway, did I mention that it’s been quite a while since I had some?  Well when it’s been long enough for a guy everything you look at starts remindind you of sex.   I was watching Monday Night Football.  And at halftime ESPN has this segment called “The Fastest 3 Minutes in Sports.”  It’s where they cram all the highlights and scores from the previous Sunday’s NFL games.  I sat there and thought to myself, “Hmm… the fastest three minutes in sports.  Is that really supposed to be for highlights?  Or is it code for the amount of time a guy can get away from the TV and get a quickie before the third quarter starts?  I mean, thats about all a girl can ask for during halftime anyway right?

Oh… so what did I do with my three minutes?  Well that’s none of your business so I’m not gonna tell you that. 

Oh.. you want to know what happened Sunday?  No problem.  Carolina beat Atlanta, Cleveland beat Cincinnati, Jacksonville beat Houston, Kansas City upset Denver, The Saints beat the 49ers, Tampa beat Green Bay, (Aaron Rogers has a separated shoulder) Tennessee beat Minnesota, the Chargers beat the Raiders, (Kiffen is giong to be fired at any moment now) Buffalo beat the Rams (Linehan got fired) the Skins beat the Cowboys (T.O. is selfish) Chicago beat Philly, the Jets beat Arizona and Brett Favre had 6 touchdown passes.  I’m just saying….Seriously

 Steelers beat Ravens in OT

New Music Releases ~ The Real Dope

….from cmac, your quasi music critic.

So ya’ll know how much I love music.  I consider it my drug of choice.  I saw the dope man the other day and got some new stuff.  I wanted to spread the word and allow others to share in the joy.  If you want to get high with me, then stop at your local drug house record store of choice for these selections. 

Exist

This is classic Tony Rich… smooth and mellow.  The first track, “Part The Waves,” gets it all started and it continues with, “Jordan,” “Sugar Hill” and “Sweet Addiction.”  The tempo is consistent and it flows wonderfully.  As a friend of mine said, “I think somebody told Rich that, ‘Hey, you know you sound best when you sound like Babyface… and he ain’t singing no more.  So why not? ‘ You can jam this in the car on an evening ride or just chill on it with a glass of your favorite wine.

The Way I See It

This is something totally different than what you used from one of the creators of the group Tony Toni Tone.  This guy goes totally retro Motown on us with songs that sound like they could be in the movie Cooley High.  He even kept the songs to around three minutes to fit the era that inspired them.  Still he has enough insight to bring along Joss Stone, Stevie Wonder and Jay-Z.   With this CD you get nostalgia and four part harmony that you can’t help but to enjoy.

Fearless

OMG – this is FEARLESS.  This 21 year old is from Philly, and is a prodigy of Missy Elliott.  This has to go to my list of coldest and most innovative debuts.  Ok, first of all she has this raspy voice that reminds you of Lauryn Hill at times… especially on, “Need You Bad.”  When I first heard that jam on the radio I almost got pissed cause I felt she was biting too hard.  But when you travel through the CD she shows her own flavor in full form and it shines through.  I have never heard anything like this before.  Look, her first cut is called, “Bust Your Windows.”  As a guy I’m like, “What the…?”  But the song is so tight and you understand why she had to do it.  After that she gets on down and explores a plethora of subject matters with, “Lions, Tigers and Bears,” a very thoughtful piece on love and fear.  “Call Me Guilty,” deals with a woman’s last ditch solution to solve the problem of an abusive man that would make Mary J. Blige bow down!  “One Night Stand,” – funny about how a woman who prefers the fast life but runs across the wrong right brother and gets caught up, “making pancakes in the morning.”  This CD is sooooo refreshing!  Full of originality and style.  It’s a must have for your collection!

A Long Time Coming

From the surprise category – yes the same Wayne Brady your thinking of.  The, “Do I have to smack a bitch?” Wayne Brady from the Dave Chappelle Show.  You see like Jamie Foxx this comedian has the jones for music too.  And if you are familiar with Brady’s ability to imitate other voices, it shouldn’t be a surprise that he did this project.  Wayne Brady did Vegas for a while.  Apparently the record executives heard him incorporate his singing into the show.  They asked him to do it the way he had on stage without changing anything.  This is the result – an old skool soulful throw back sound that is mature and ready for immediate play on your CD player.  Brady has chops!  To go along with it he has great production value and my favorite word again… originality.  He definitely rocks his own style and took this work seriously.  It clearly shows.  This shit music is pimp!

And then there is this….

WHACK ASS ALBUM OF THE SEASON…..

Joe Thomas, New Man

I was listening to Joe’s, “New Man.”  I had to look at the CD again and make sure it wasn’t Neo or Chris Brown instead.  I don’t know what happened other than perhaps they are trying to draw a new and younger audience.  The funny thing is that the best parts of the CD of the last 5 snippets of music that is supposed to be released in Feburary 2009.  All five of those sounds hot!  I don’t know about the new man, but please Joe, bring back the old man!  On the upside at least the brother got resistered to vote yesterday thanks to Tom Joyner. 

Something Else (Includes Six Bonus Tracks) [Amazon.com Exclusive]

Looking forward to that Robin Thicke scheduled to be released on September 30th….

Temptation

The subject of temptation is a fascinating one to me.  As people we are always tempted with something.  Normally when the word temptation is used it has to do with a form of the forbidden.  For instance if I commit to fasting for a certain amount of time, during that period I will at some point be tempted to eat.  I may be on day 3 of a 10 day fast for instance, and all of a sudden it’s free pizza day at work.  I can smell it, my stomach is grumbling and my body is craving the cheese and sauce.  Now what?

First let’s first define temptation.  I didn’t search the dictionary, but for the sake of this post, we will define temptation as: a desire to do or partake in something that is at least temporarily forbidden.  (I.e. food when fasting)  It is the compromise of the highest form of original intention, infecting personal character and integrity.  The core of these temptations stem from three areas: The lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life.  No temptation will exist without at least one of these at play.  Examples:

Lust of the flesh – You know you got a lady or a man – yet you feel tempted to flirt or allow yourself to be flirted with by that attractive person you see at the mall. 

Lust of the eyes – While at the same mall you see that outfit that you think is hot.  But you know you don’t need that outfit.  Furthermore, if you spend that money, you will put yourself behind the 8 ball and it will cost you more than the price of the outfit later.

Pride of Life – Driving from the mall a car cuts you off as you turn to approach the exit.  You know the best thing to do is turn the page and be thankful there was no accident.  Walk away.  But something inside says you should give that fool a piece of your mind. 

These are just some general examples.  We are constantly bombarded with temptations through life’s experiences as we just covered.  We are also tempted through media and advertisement.  Even the way your local grocery store shelves its products is a way to tempt you to spend more money on the most expensive products.

I am learning that what we do with temptation is what makes or breaks us in daily life.  Do we face temptation head on or do we slide backwards into its cunning and deceptive ways?  Recognizing temptation is the first key.  So often we are bombarded with images and situations, I’m not sure we realize how much we face on the day to day. 

The best way to deal with temptation is to confront it head on.  By that I mean we shouldn’t play ourselves into acting like we aren’t tempted when we really are.  If you are tempted to do something, just admit it.  Its not a sign of weakness but of strength to face the facts of self evaluation.  How many times have we put ourselves in bad situations because we were in denial about what was going on inside our hearts?  Only to find later we are filled with regrets of personal failings.  Once we face the reality of what is tempting us, next decide what to do about it.  If we take immediate action, we are far more likely to overcome that temptation.  If we allow the imagination to fester and permeate our psyche, we are more likely to fall into said temptation.  Excuse me for putting it this way, but temptation is a subtle mother-fucker!  And you can’t be pussying around with it either!  It has to be handled and dealt with head on or it will get you caught up with the quickness. 

For each person it’s important to know what it is you really want out of life.  What is the level of happiness you want to achieve?  What kind of house do you want to live in?  How healthy would you like to be and what kind of body do you want to have?  What kind of relationships do you want with your significant other, family and friends?  What kind of impact would you like to make in this life?  What do you need to do to make that impact?  What tenancies and weaknesses do you have that would prevent you from living your best life.  How far are you willing to go to maximize your potential and live your best life?  Answer these questions and you are on your way to living life in a real way. 

There is no shame in being tempted.  Jesus himself was tempted.  It will be an ongoing happening for the rest of our lives.  The man/woman of the highest level of integrity will recognize self tendencies and take appropriate action in order to ensure that life is lived with the greatest amount of freedom without the constant weight of consequences from bad decisions.  If our eyes are wide open to who we are and what is before us, we can use temptation and our success/failings as a barometer to measure personal growth.  The thing about temptation is this – being tempted never made anyone do anything they didn’t want to do.  No matter what temptations we face in life, we always retain the final rights of choice.  To not recognize temptation sets us up to merely fall over and over again into cycles of failure.  Understanding and self- knowing will help us make the right choices that we are willing to live with. 

Whatever you do with temptation is up to you.  Just keep your eyes open and take responsibility for what happens.

Commentary from CNN’s Campbell Brown

Commentary: Sexist treatment of Palin must end

By Campbell Brown
CNN

Editor’s Note: Campbell Brown anchors CNN’s “Campbell Brown: Election Center” at 8 p.m. ET Mondays-Fridays. She delivered this commentary during the “Cutting through the Bull” segment of Tuesday night’s broadcast.

NEW YORK (CNN) — Frankly I have had it, and I know a lot of other women out there who are with me on this. I have had enough of the sexist treatment of Sarah Palin. It has to end.

She was in New York on Tuesday meeting with world leaders at the U.N. And what did the McCain campaign do?

They tried to ban reporters from covering those meetings. And they did ban reporters from asking Gov. Palin any questions.

I call upon the McCain campaign to stop treating Sarah Palin like she is a delicate flower who will wilt at any moment.

This woman is from Alaska for crying out loud. She is strong, she is tough, she is confident. And you claim she is ready to be one heartbeat away from the presidency. If that is the case, then end this chauvinistic treatment of her now. Allow her to show her stuff.

Allow her to face down those pesky reporters just like Barack Obama did today, just like John McCain did today. Just like Joe Biden has done on numerous occasions. Let her have a real news conference with real questions.

By treating Sarah Palin differently from other candidates in this race, you are not showing her the respect she deserves.

Free Sarah Palin.

Free her from the chauvinistic chains you are binding her with.

Sexism in this campaign must come to an end. Sarah Palin has as much a right to be a real candidate in this race as the men do.

http://www.cnn.com/2008/POLITICS/09/24/campbell.brown.palin/index.html#cnnSTCText

The Man Bible 7 : Do It For Love

The way a man penetrates the world should be the same way he penetrates his woman: not merely for personal gain or pleasure, but to magnify love, openess, and depth. 

– The next time you embrace your woman sexually, feel your ultimate desire.  Your deepest desire in life.  Feel why you are doing anything at all in life, and specifically, why you are uniting with your lover.  There may be many lesser reasons, but what is your deepest, ultimate reason?

– Most men’s ultimate reason for doing anything has to do with discovering their deepest truth, enjoying total freedom and love, and giving their fullest gift.  Yet, many settle for for enjoying a little bit of freedom and love while incompletely giving their gifts. 

– When a man give his true gift of sex to his woman, he penetrates and blooms her beyond all limits into love.  It is the same with the world.  To bloom woman and world for real takes authenticity, persistence, and courage of heart.   A man must know the truth at his core and be willing to give his gifts fully.  No holding back.  He must be willing to dedicate his sex and his life to magnifying love by penetrating woman and world with his true gifts.  The willingness is rare.

– Most men are limpened with doubts and uncertainties.  Or they hold back their true drive because of fear.  So they diddle their woman and the world just enough to extract the pleasure and comfort they need to assuage their nagging sense of falsity and incompleteness.  But if you are willing to discover and embrace your truth, lean through your fears, and give everything you’ve got, you can penetrate the world and your woman from the core of your being and bloom them into love without limit.  You can ravish your woman so deeply that her surrender breaks your heart into light.  You can press yourself into the world with such enduring love that the world opens and receives your deepest gifts.

– There is no essential difference between entering your woman’s feminine heart and entering fully into the world.  Both forms of intercourse, sexual and worldly, require sensitivity, spontaneity and a strong connection to deep truth in order to penetrate chaos and closure in a way that love prevails.

– Neither woman nor world are predictable.  They will often seem to resist your gifts and test your capacity to persist.  And just as surely, they will tenderly respond to the authenticity of your relaxed ministrations, the freedom expressed in your humor, and the invasion of your a adamant love.  They will open in love and receive you fully – only to resist and test you again, moments or days later.  Neither woman nor world can be second-guessed, or fooled.  They know when you are just dicking around.  They want to receive you for real. – David Deida

Uhhh, no commentary necessary on this one.  I think he said it all. 

 

 

A Salute To Coaches

One of the most important names a man/woman can be called is, “coach.”  At first glance a coach merely looks like a guide or a teacher of sporting fundamentals, teamwork, competition and sportsmanship.  But often they are so much more.  They are mentors, and are often looked upon by players as people who can help them accomplish something important. 

I’ve followed and participated in sports all of my life in some form.  I’ve played for some coaches I adored and some I abhorred.  This had nothing to do with whether a coach was a hard liner or an encourager in terms of style.  I am talking about other areas that make the difference.  These are the two questions I ask of my coaches.

“Does Coach know anything about the sport he/she is trying to teach me? ”

“Is Coach in this for me or for him?”

I could always tell on the first day of practice what the answer to these questions were.  And that determined my experience on the team. 

A coach can have a tremendous amount of influence on a kid.  The right coach can get a player to do things he never imagined he could.  He can help the player to learn some terriffic lessons in navigating in life through sports.  On the other hand a coach can be a horrible influence and teach young people the total opposite of how to handle situations or themselves.  I have seen both sides of these.  And one thing I cannot tolerate to see is a coach who works with young people for the sake of his/her own ego and sense of glory.  One of the coolest thing to see is a coach who loves the kids he/she works with. 

As a basketball official, I see coaches all the time.  Many of them I’ve worked often. 

A case of knowing a coach is in it for the right reasons is one that I ran into recently at a tournement.  This guy is a two time Missouri High School Coach of the Year and won a state championship.  Certainly he is one of the most respected basketball coaches in the state.  His players go to Division 1 universities and some have gone to the NBA.  When I officiated one of his games recently I would have expected to see high school teens getting ready for the upcoming season.  What I saw instead was a group of 5th graders learn at the hands of one of the best.  From the tip off to the final buzzer this guy taught, instructed and encouraged his players to an easy victory.  His team was calm, seem to feel no pressure and really enjoyed themselves.  This wasn’t the first time I saw a coach who could coach pretty much anywhere he wanted take time for younger underdeveloped players.  Though I don’t care who wins the games I officiate, it felt good to see adults who understand the importance of taking time out for our youth – and who can handle this great responsibility correctly.  Some of these coaches are nuts and shouldn’t be around young people at all.  Most of them (even the ones that don’t seem to know anything about the game) are caring and compassionate towards our future leaders of society.

For everyone who takes time to coach and guide our youth the right way… I salute you!

Poems By Resonate’: Flexible

Sup Familia, 

From time to time I like to dabble with a little poetry.  Actually I have quite a bit the last couple months.  At some point I plan to tour some of the local spoken word venues and share.  However, I will post some here first and share with you the readers. 

My poems range from different areas of my experience.  And regardless of how I feel, I am learning to express feelings and emotions making art of passion and pain – fear and love – joy and suffering. 

My poet’s name is Resonate’  Let’s just say he is my artistic alter ego.  Hope you enjoy~

 

Flexible

 

Left or right up and down

Standing still my heart pounds

Holding my peace and fighting the wind

Start then stop – begin again

Love with all my heart

Tender smooth and smart

Hard not compromising beliefs

Jackin’ rough no signs of relief

Whats your problem you got some beef?

Back up off me, damn keep the peace

 

© 2008 Resonate’